why is it “self hating” when a person doesnt identify with their race or if they try to look different?
Question by that white talking dog: why is it “self hating” when a person doesnt identify with their race or if they try to look different?
lets say for example that a black woman chooses to “relax” her hair or get a weave or extensions or a wig instead of her “natural hair”. she gets crap for it. if an asian decides to change the shape of his/her eyes he/she gets called a self hater. although for some reason if white people get tanned they dont get called self haters.
now here is where I find there to be a hypocrisy. you cant say that all people of a certain race look the same right? you cant say “all black people have nappy hair” “all white people are pale and white” or “all hispanic people are brown” right? just as you can’t say that big butts are an exclusive black trait, or that colored eyes are a white trait, or that wide eyes(the ones most asians have) are an asian trait, you simply just cant say that any race owns any trait right?
so why is it that if a person chooses to get rid of a trait that is most common in their race, or get a trait that is found more commonly in other races, that they are self haters? i mean since when if a black person chooses to get artificial hair that they are “self haters” because they arent “rockin” their “natural hair”? and what if an asian chooses to get rounder eyes? or lets say if a hispanic person chooses to get “blue eye contacts” that now they’re “trying to be white”? (believe me I would include the white people getting tans but they dont get crap for it unless they overdo it and look like oompa loompas. LOL)
I mean isn’t it hypocritical? to get called a “self hater” if you want to get rid of a trait that is common among your race when not every person in your race has that trait? like if someone with brown eyes chooses to get “blue contacts” they are “trying to be white” yet not all white people have blue eyes. or if a white girl gets butt implants then “shes trying to be black” when not all black people have big butts.
so would you agree with me that people should be able to do what they want with their bodies? that they arent “self haters” when not every person of their race owns a certain trait?
I forgot to mention. if a person is biracial then why do they get crap for not identify with one half of their race? you cant say that somebody will act a certain way or do something simply because of their race right? so why should a person be forced to act a certain way because of their race?
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Answer by Laura Beth
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I wouldn’t call that self-loathing. Most parents who are in love with their background would probably look down on the younger ones and tell them that they shouldn’t be ashamed of what or who they are. I see what you mean but self-loathing isn’t based on one’s race. It’s more of a personal choice to be like people they like. I don’t really know how to explain it.
I see the point you’re trying to make. Yes, not all White people have blue eyes (I even know a few Blacks with some), however, those traits (blue eyes in this case) are more common with Whites. Moreover, super straight hair is not common with Blacks.
I think people here get so caught up defending their ace, they forget that off the computer they do the same hypocritical things they judge others for doing. That’s how they know so many stereotypes. It’s funny how many black users come on here acting like they know nothing negative about the black community(every race has it’s negatives) but they post such self hating questions themselves tearing down blacks by skin color, natural or fake hair, blacks dating inter racially, Beyonce(lol).
I bet these type of questions they avoid on purpose because they realize how stupid they sound, ignorant and hypocritical they are. Why is it black men and women no matter what color say “I don’t like dark skin” when off the internet, but get upset when non blacks date them? People call me a self hater, oh because I’m not a one race defender and I’m honest on things they aren’t or won’t admit they know about. I love who I am, I don’t hate on other black women either. But when ever some one tells them the truth about their fake selves they’ll call you any name they can think of.
some tell me i’m not in tune with black people because i don’t perm my hair. my hair is not as curly as other black women’s. i don’t know why, but i was born that way and i cant change it. i just don’t have to, and if i don’t have to, then why would i? obviously i’m measured by the way i wear my hair or what i use in/on it.
faith is right, people are obsessed with race TOO much on here. that’s why we have trolls.
You have a few good points, and I think for the most part- the individual knows what they are trying to accomplish. If you can accent your beauty, do that. But, in some cases- it is self hate and these people know how they truly feel about themselves. When you dislike yourself or apart of yourself, people can see that- it comes through you.
Well they get crap because they put down the people who do.
They often refuse to realize they dont need it to be beautiful, I know girls who hate how there hair would look or there face without make up.
Honestly I feel so different because I wear a fro. Yes a fro the thing there everyone use to have. I get random offers to get it braided or why I dont.
People can change there look thats cool enjoy but when they do it to hide how they really look then thats just being insecure.